Looking For Free Special Education Advice Online? Don't.


Looking For Free Special Education Advice Online? Don't.

I have worked in the education industry for 24+ years.  First, as a teacher then as an ABA Therapist.   For the past 18+ years, I have owned my own business and worked as a Special Needs Advocate and Educational Consultant.  Each of these positions have allowed me to learn new things while working on how to help children attain their goals and become successful.  For me, these last 18+ years have taught me many things (good and bad) along with meeting and working with families from the United States as well as internationally.  

Each day is a new experience.  Many things and situations that I witness draws on my years in the industry while including my education, skills and quite frankly common sense.  The reason I started my business was to educate and empower parents and families that have a child with special needs.  

Please read the following blog post and take it to heart.  If you decide to do nothing else, please read on.

Almost everyday, I am contacted by advocates and or attorneys looking for information to answer questions that they have. 

Some of The questions are:

1. How do I interpret test scores?

2. What are the parameters in regards to a parent signing an IEP?

3. Is my client entitled to transportation? 

4. I am working with a family but the child’s placement is wrong, what do I do?

5. My advocate is out of the country for the next two weeks and told me that they are not available by phone or email, what do I do?

And the list goes on and on. 

First of all, I cannot answer any these questions properly and accurately without knowing all of the information in regards to the child.  When I instruct these individuals that I would be more happy to help them but I need all the information that is pertinent to the case as well as any paperwork involved (this includes IEP, test scores, etc.).  I explain to them that they can book a call with me in order to go over their question (s) and thereby give them an answer to move forward with so they can represent their client to the best of their ability.

Although I am willing to help, I question why are these people representing anyone when clearly they are not qualified to do so. 

Additionally, who is hiring them and did the family not do their homework?

After doing some research, these are the very people that are on online forums trying to gain answers to their questions from other “advocates” and “attorneys.”

PLEASE, if you truly want to help your child, do not resort to going onto online forums in order to find out information regarding the law, support services, placement, what your rights are as a parent along with what your child’s rights are.  

Time and time again, individuals seek assistance from an online forum. 

These people answering you are not qualified at all. 

Any parent who has a special needs child and has turned into an advocate is not an advocate. 

Check their credentials.  Degree? Experience? Email address? (I have addressed this particular topic in a prior blog post).

Just this week, I had a parent call me whose child is currently in a boarding school which he pays for out of pocket but believes that it is not the right placement.  It is now January, where have you been?!  He contacted me to see if I could get his daughter’s placement changed.  In speaking with him, he disclosed that he had an “attorney” but she did not know what she was doing. 

So the bottom line is he spent money on someone that he thought could help and she was not qualified.  So not only is he exactly where he started but he is 5 months into the school year with no direction.

I explained my process to him and welcomed him to contact me if he desired to.  In closing with our conversation, I wished him the best because I knew that he was not going to be proactive in regards to the placement and he would be right back to where he is now come the beginning of the 2019-2020 school year.  I knew this because he has been fighting this fight for the past 5 years.

Having a child who is special needs means time is of the essence. 

You have only a certain window of time that you need to get everything done in.  If you try and it is not working, then it is time to change gears and re-evaluate the situation and  what needs to be done differently and how you can accomplish that.  Not to keep repeating the same thing and hope against hope that things will change.

Going to an online forum is NEVER the answer. 

Asking total strangers about your particular situation and child does not make any sense.  No one can give you a definitive answer about your situation and your child without knowing every detail.  A blanket answer is not THE answer.  

The second instance this week, an “advocate” called me because she did not know how to interpret test scores that a family questioned her about.  In speaking to her, I instructed her that I would be more than happy to help but needed the information emailed to me so that I could look it over myself.  At that time, if I had everything I needed which I believed could warrant a comprehensive answer then she could book a call and I would be more than happy to cover it with her and explain how to actually interpret the results. 

Let me follow this up with, I looked her up - she had no experience, not a professional email or any degrees that would tell me she is actually educated in this area or any area.  In speaking with her, I heard her baby crying in the background.  You cannot be taken seriously and be a true professional when you are at home taking care of your baby while trying to help a family.

Unfortunately, I have found that many of these “advocates” represent themselves as such but are anything but.  They are on these online forums dishing out advice when they shouldn’t be doing anything of this nature. 

Being an advocate is NOT something you decide to do when your kids are in school for a few hours and you are playing funsies with people’s lives.

Third instance - I had an attorney contact me because he did not know how to address a problem that a family was having who HE was representing.  The situation was complicated as it involved several problems that had been ongoing but never resolved.  Again, my response was the same as I gave to the other individuals who contacted me this week. 

He wanted a quick answer for a quick fix. 

He explained that he did not have a lot of time because if he took too long to follow up with the family then he would look bad and the family would question his competency (my word, not his).  Clearly, he is not capable of representing this family and perhaps others.  I explained that I do not give “quick fix” answers.  When I answer something, it is after I have done my due diligence on the topic and/or situation.  He was not happy with my response and hung up on me.  Is this the type of individual you would want representing you?  He too, is on an online forum answering questions.  Clearly, I would question anything he has to say as he states he is a lawyer with a specialty in Special Education.

Many of these advocates and lawyers feel the need to be on these forums always giving advice because they feel as though their presence will somehow validate who they are.  

Bottom line:  the amount of time these individuals are on these forums is vast.  If you had a “real business” then you would not have time to spend on these forums continually because you would actually be running a business and have clients to genuinely help.

These three situations are only a sampling of individuals that I have heard from this week.  In total, 6 people contacted me this week for advice, help, interpretation of the law and test scores.  These are not the people you want to hire or even request answers from.  As a side note, I have seen some of these particular individuals on some online forums to answer questions.  Ironic as they do not know the answers because then they contact me to actually get the answers.

Please please please do not go to these online forums to get answers about your child because these people do not know your child, your family or your situation.

What should you do?

  1. Do yourself a favor - do your homework before hiring an advocate or attorney.  

  2. Cheaper is not usually better.  As the old adage goes - you get what you pay for. The gentleman who contacted me this week said he paid an attorney who he admitted was not that much money (any money spent is too much if you get lackluster or no results).  Unfortunately, he is out the money and nowhere closer to where he needs to be and what his daughter is in need of.

  3. On that same note as above - don’t be taken in by the “Free Consultation.”  When anyone advertises their services as “free” it de-values them.  When I see this verbiage, it tells me that this person will take anyone on as a client because offering a “free” anything will bring people in.  They also think “well, a little money is better than no money.”  I have heard this from individuals who have contacted me because they want to become a Special Needs Advocate but do not know how to go about it.  I correct them and explain that as the saying goes - “you get what you pay for.”  As a parent, you should look for quality over quantity.  Advocates are a dime a dozen but GREAT advocates are hard to come by and if someone falls into the latter category then they will not be on these online forums to give advice in order to boost themselves up.  Their work speaks volumes as to who they are and maybe they are not cheap but more times than not, they are worth every penny.

As a parent of a child with special needs, there are many questions that come up and situations that need to be addressed.  It is an ever changing time whereby you need to keep a level head, spend time weighing the negatives and positives along with what is right for your family and what is not.  At times it is overwhelming but when you need clarification and have questions, please seek out the assistance from individuals who genuinely have your child’s best interest at heart and will do the right thing.  These individuals will be by your side and willing to “fight” as hard for your child as you will - sometimes harder.  

For me personally, I started my business to help the underdog.  EVERYONE deserves the same chance to be great. 

As a parent, please do not seek out assistance from individuals who don’t have that passion for your child or family.  

I can honestly say that the individuals who are on these online forums have a passion - for themselves, not for your child.

 Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.


How To Date Someone With A Special Needs Child


How To Date Someone With A Special Needs Child

Wanting and finding someone to be in a relationship can have it’s up and downs.  There are many factors - both minimal and substantial that effect who you choose to be with.  However, when you meet an individual who seems to have most or all of the qualities you are looking for and feel as though this could be a long term relationship, you find out that they are a parent of a special needs child.  This, depending upon the person, can be a wonderful thing.  In addition to the worries that a parent possesses, there are a whole host of other concerns that are part of the mix.  These additional issues take time on the parent’s part to think about, work through and address whether it be on their own or with the child’s other parent.  

Some of the worries can include:

  1. Will my child be accepted in the world?  We all want to be accepted for who we are and what we can bring to this world.  We all have something positive that others can learn from and make this world a better place.

  2. Will my child develop correctly and meet the criteria for their age - both physically and mentally?  Will my child walk, talk and possess the social skills needed to make friends and work with other individuals while holding down a job?  Trying to play catch up isn’t easy.  It produces more stress and anxiety for the child as well as the parents.

  3. When will I find the time to spend time with my special needs child and my other child (ren) that are not special needs?  Can I juggle my time so everyone is getting what they need (nourishment for the mind, body and soul)?

  4. If my child has been diagnosed with a specific condition, is there a vast amount of information out there whereby I can educate myself and therefore be the best parent I can be?  

  5. How will my child perform within the academic environment?  Is my child’s intellectual and physical disabilities going to effect them in these areas?  

  6. Is my child medically fragile? Does my child spend a significant amount of time in the hospital or going to physician appointments? 

  7. Will the individual that I meet understand how I feel and what I am going through?  If a person has not walked in your shoes, it may be very difficult for them to understand where you are coming from even though they may truly try.

  8. I am tired and therefore can I provide to another person the time, energy and love that they deserve to make the relationship what it should be? Can I have a wonderful, giving and loving relationship with a person who is willing to accept my child for who they are and can they find it in their heart to love my child as if they were their own?

Dating a person with kids is sometimes looked at as impossible or dating someone with a child or children that are special needs is impossible.  It is not!  If you go into the relationship knowing that there are more requirements and that it has a different set of challenges, it will make it far easier for all parties involved.  But, it is not impossible.

You need to understand the other parent’s role in the situation. 

You might have to meet this person as they might have the right to know who else in the child’s life especially if the parents are on good terms.  If the parent’s are not on good terms, then you would have to just listen to your partner’s complaints, if any about the other.  Being a good listener is an integral part of being a great partner whether there is a special needs child involved or not.

You have to earn the child’s trust. 

Many times it takes a while for a child to warm up to you and trust you.  You need to foster this especially if you are going to be around the child quite a bit if you feel this relationship will be long term.

Be genuine.  To your partner and their child.  If you are just playing a game, the child will pick up on that.  Additionally, it is extremely disrespectful to your partner if this is how you treat his/her child and the relationship.  Without genuineness, truthfulness and respect the relationship will never work.

Never make your partner choose between you and his/her child. 

When you have a child with special needs, plans need to be thought out and scheduled ahead of time.  Impromptu plans are difficult for the child as they usually need to know what is going on (from this moment and 3 steps forward).  Therefore, in order to make the outcome a positive one, a little extra time is needed in preparation. You need to understand the accommodations that need to be made when making plans.

Dating someone with children can be difficult and stressful at times but when you have a child with special needs in the relationship, those feelings can be magnified exponentially.  You must be patient and understanding to ensure that your partner knows that you will be there in the ups and downs.  You must be a person that they can rely upon, no matter what.

The bottom line is that dating someone with children especially children with special needs provides a whole host of challenges and not everyone has the makeup to do so.  The best advice is to be honest.  If you start dating someone with a special needs child and over time you feel as though it is too much to handle:  You must be honest.  Your honesty could be hurtful at first but the other person will be forever grateful.  This will allow for both of you to move on and find someone who is better suited for each of you.  But if you have the love in your heart, the patience and commitment then it could be a start to a wonderful new life.  You are the only one who can make that decision.  

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.


Holiday Gift Guide For Special Needs Children


Holiday Gift Guide For Special Needs Children

Although it is only the beginning of October, the holiday season is upon us and some stores are already in full swing in getting the word out there about their particular products.  With that said, I have curated a list of toys that I believe are some of the best in regards to their purpose and how well they can be an integral part of the special needs community that encompasses children of all ages.

Each and every one of these toys are special in their own way while working on the skills that are of utmost importance in the life of all children but especially for a child with special needs.  A child with special needs has to work at least 10 times harder than most in order to achieve the same success.  As a parent, securing the tools needed to help your child gain the skills and reach the success that they are so capable of is a must.  My goal in curating not only this list but my previous lists as well are there to inform, educate and assist in making your child’s life easier but your whole family’s life as well. It is a collaboration that takes many parts to make the puzzle whole.  Once all the pieces are in place, the gains and accomplishments begin to surface.

I hope you find this list helpful along with all the toys I have listed previously in my prior blog posts.  In my opinion, any child would love to receive any of these toys.  Learning can and should be fun.  It’s what you make of it and how you choose to approach and address it.

I wish you and your family a very happy and healthy holiday season.  

Who doesn’t want a little calm in one’s life.  This pillow vibrates when you touch or hug it but it stops when you let go.  This pillow is for everyone from kids to adults, no matter what your age or need is.  Keep in mind, it does require 2 “D” batteries so you’ll want to have them on hand when gifts are opened!

This toy is fantastic as it has numerous uses.  Not only can it be used for matching shapes but for teaching colors and counting.  The pegboard is made from foam so it is safe and the pegs are oversized so they are easy even for the littlest of hands to maneuver.  The pieces also help with fine motor coordination and it all comes in a super easy and transportable bag so you can bring it with you on any trip away from home.  I also love this toy because the pieces come in 12 different bright colors as well as 12 different shapes.  Also, the toy is great for girls and boys!  You will keep coming back to this toy again and again.

This toy is a must!  It is super bright with all of the colors as well as super portable.  It can be put in any bag when leaving the house.  Because it is self enclosed, it is great for travel whether it be in a car, plane, train or bus.  The purpose of the toy is to assist in visual sensory development, auditory sensory development, hand-eye coordination and gross motor skills.  It hits upon several aspects of development included in one toy and therefore makes it a must within your child’s “bag of tricks.”

Who doesn’t love a little friendly competition?  This balance board assists with stability, coordination and spatial awareness - just to name a few.  But wouldn’t it be fun to see how long your child could balance on it?  With each time, you could log the time and each time after, your child could try to beat the last time.  This way they are in competition with themselves and it helps with their gross motor skills.

This toy is safe for your kids as it made from non-toxic plastic.  The colors are awesome! They are bright and fun and allows for your child to use their imagination and build anything they want.  This toy is great also because it comes with a play board that is portable.  Having this play board allows your child to build on it and therefore gives their creation the stability needed.  The sticks have various textures so it helps with sensory and tactile stimulation.  I love this toy to travel with, wherever your child may go.  With the portable play board and bag that fits the pieces, it is a “go to” whether at home or away.

This Teeter Popper is made for kids up to 110 pounds.  It is a bright green with bright blue suction cups on the bottom so it is happy and engaging.  The suction cups make a “pop pop” sound when the child sits on it, rocks on it or stands on it.  It has a number of advantages as it helps a child’s core, balance and gross motor skills, just to name a few.  I love this toy because it is easily portable and can be used inside or outside.  You can also use it to time the child as to how long they can stay on it and continue to practice until they break their previous record.  This toy has the coveted distinction of being ASTRA’s Best Toys for Kids Award 2014.

This toy is so much fun!  You can stretch it, wrap it, twist it and more.  The colors that it comes in are awesome - Super bright!  These are great for kids and adults as it can be used to decrease stress and anxiety. As a parent, you don’t have to worry about the materials as it is BPA, phthalates and latex free.  The best part of playing with this toy is that the strings start out at being 12 inches long but stretches out to 8 feet long.  How cool is that?

This toy is great!  It is happy to look at as it has a smiley mouth on it.  It is bright in color and easy to follow when thrown.  It is fantastic for eye - hand coordination.  Since it’s soft and cushy, it feels good to handle.  The best part is that it laughs when you push on it, so it will always bring a smile to your child’s face.  Also, the ball is 4” in diameter so it is the perfect size for kids to handle when throwing or catching it.

Kids love music.  I can’t think of a better way to introduce kids to different ways to make music.  This set is made for 6 months and up.  It is never too early to start your child with the gift of music.  Each instrument (set of 4) are brightly colored with a handle to grab onto.  Each instrument makes different sounds so you can build your own band at home.

This is a 13 piece set that includes the cutest cookie jar to use as storage.  The cookies are chocolate chip with the number of chips printed on the bottom of each.  This toy is great for gross motor skills, building the child’s counting skills along with number recognition.  The cookies are great for tactile stimulation as well.  Don’t we all wish we could have such a cute cookie jar?

What a great way for your child to work out that extra energy.  Plus it’s great for physical fitness!  It is very easy to assemble as the legs screw on and the handle gets attached.  Once that is done, your child is ready for a jumping workout.  It’s portable as well: just unscrew the handle and legs and you are good to go.  It can also be used inside and out and it can accommodate kids up to 150 pounds.

Having good oral health is important for everyone.  However, for a child with special needs brushing their teeth may present a challenge.  This toothbrush has soft bristles which can make brushing quicker and more efficient.  This comes in a 6 pack so you will have plenty ready to go when needed.  After all, who doesn’t love a sparkling smile?

Do you want to challenge your child?  Then this is the game for them.  It is great for boys or girls ages 8 and up.  Not only does this game build spatial reasoning but helps with developing critical thinking skills as well.  There are different levels from beginner to expert so your child will not feel overwhelmed.  This toy is great as well for the whole family to challenge each along with your child’s friends.  This toy is the winner of several awards as well.  So, challenge yourself and your child.  How good are your skills?  

This fantastic box has 250 puzzle pieces with 4 blank write on/wipe off pieces.  The 250 pieces are color coded with the parts of speech they represent so your child can build sentences.  Your child can not only learn and recognize words but understand what and where they belong in a sentence.  There are numerous games you can play while working on grammar, sight word recognition, fluency as well as punctuation.  This is great for the beginner as well as boys and girls.  It also helps with fine motor skills as well.  A 4-page booklet is included as well with some suggestions as how to use this toy.  This toy was also a winner of the Creative Childs Award.

This toy is great for kids of all ages as it works on a child’s fine motor skills in a fun way.  This set comes with 30 super colorful beads along with 2 laces.  Not only can you use it for fine motor skills but you can also use it for color recognition, shape recognition along with matching and counting.  Personally, I love any lacing activity as the benefits of it are visible across the board whether a child is special needs or not.  This toy also comes in a wooden box that you can store it in when it is not in use.

This is a MUST- holidays or not.  This is made of waterproof/weatherproof material that has bright colors which are very visible.  This sticker speaks for your child if they cannot.  Your hope is that it will never be needed but if it is, it makes it much easier for responders.

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs 5th Graders


Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs 5th Graders

This is my last post in my series of Best Therapeutic Toys per grade level.  I hope you have found the posts helpful in shedding some light as to what toys are great for children with special needs.  Through the years, I have been asked by families all over the country who I have worked with in the past as well as work with presently, “What can I purchase to help my child?”  After thousands of inquiries, I decided to feature this topic on my blog so as to share the information with as many families as possible.  In fact, I have many families still contact me from years ago to let me know how my recommendations impacted their child and family in addition to how well their child has also been doing and continues to progress at a speed they never thought possible.

I entered into the education field because I truly wanted to make a positive difference for children and their families.  I am always interested in finding ways to go above and beyond in order to help a child to be successful on their journey.  We all come into this world with a plan that has been designed for each of us.  For the child with special needs, that plan is different but I believe not impossible. 

Your child needs you to guide them, advocate for them, understand them and most importantly, love them.  With each step you take, the goal is never lost and therefore what your child can accomplish is beyond anyone’s expectations with some help.  As the saying goes: It takes a village.  My hope is that my blog posts are MY part of the village to help your child soar!

These are great for kids as you can do so much with them.  What can you do, you ask?  You can stretch it, roll it, bounce it and the list goes on and on.  This is a great sensory toy for kids as well as adults that have tactile issues.  And did I mention, it is great for relieving stress.  This toy is very portable and the set includes 12 balls so your child can share them with other kids in the family as well as friends.  Each silly putty ball has it’s own plastic storage ball to keep it clean.

This blue ball is great for kids that have coordination and balance issues.  It does have to be inflated by an adult once you receive it.  It is also made from heavy duty vinyl so you can wipe it down to clean it.  I love the blue color as it is happy and bright.  The shape is cool too as it is in the shape of a peanut.

This game is great for kids who need to increase their coping skills.  There are 90 questions and the game is meant for 2 to 6 players.  The cards are very colorful as the pictures are bright and inviting.  The writing on each card is very clear and easy to read as well.  The goal in playing this game is to teach children how to react and respond to anger but in a healthy approach and way.  This is a skill that should always be worked on as it is part of one’s life skills.

This card game is great because it provides a prompt that then the child needs to fill in.  The game is a great tool to gain insight as to feelings that the child has but has difficulty expressing.  There are 35 animated cards in the box and the pictures are so cute, non-intimidating and very inviting to illicit an appropriate response.  The goal is that the characters on each card help the child work through different issues.  Some issues can include anger, anxiety, fears, family loss, etc.  This toy was named winner of Dr. Toy Best Products and Dr. Toy 10 Best Socially Responsible Products.  

This game is so much fun- the goal is to catch the Worry-Less Monster.  For special needs children, worrying might be part of their everyday.  This game is meant to help with the negative feelings, anxiety, etc. as well as how to self monitor so the worry does not take over their day and therefore impinge upon their productivity.  From the box to the game board to the cards - they are all colorful, fun to look at and super inviting.  The characters are adorable and children will want to play this game again and again due to how it presents itself and all the while it will be help them beyond what they could ever imagine.

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs 4th Graders


Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs 4th Graders

My ongoing series of blog posts is nearing the end with only one more grade to be posted.  My hope is that these posts have helped you, as a parent, to purchase items that will work on numerous skills that your child is having difficulty with.  All of the items that I have highlighted are great ways for your child to work on and work through the hurdles that get in their way in order to accomplish their goals.  Remember, these items are part of your arsenal of “equipment” that will help your child in his/her journey.  

Feelings In a Jar has 365 pieces of paper that have different feelings printed on them. The child can pull out the piece of paper that corresponds to how he/she is feeling at that moment so they can be better understood.  This item is great for kids that either cannot communicate how they feel or their expressive language is very minimal or non-existent. The jar is made from recycled plastic and is very portable so it can be brought with you when you go to grandma’s house or on vacation.

This ball comes in 2 sizes depending upon the age of the child.  It has multiple uses from becoming extra seating to using it as part of a therapy routine to using it as a reward for a job well done. It is great for helping strengthen a child’s core as well as help them work on their balance.  Another great use for this ball is allowing your child to work out any extra energy that they may have but do it in a positive and productive way.

Kids love Halloween!  The costumes, the candy, the parties.  Why not get them a Halloween bingo game?  This game is colorful and has all the pictures on the cards that are associated with the holiday and that children recognize.  Even if your child has difficulty with their expressive language but their receptive language is more advanced, then you can use the cards as not only a matching game but a picture recognition game as well.

This target toss game is great for kids but for parents too.  It is super cute with the turtle theme.  After all, who doesn’t love a cute turtle?  The turtle has a numbered target and it comes with 4 bean bags that are self-sticking.  I love the fact that this can be used indoors but outdoors as well.  What a great game to play in the backyard on a nice sunny day!  This game promotes number recognition, gross motor skills and hand eye coordination to name a few.

Stress: Who doesn’t feel it?  We all do, at some level or another.  But for kids with special needs, it is that much more magnified.  Why not get them a great game or tool to help them develop the skills they need in order to deal with all types of stress?  Not only does it help them with stress but is also works on the skills necessary to cope with developmental and situational problems.

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs 3rd Graders


Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs 3rd Graders

3rd grade can be a pivotal one for many children especially children with special needs.  There is a substantial shift coming from 2nd grade level work and expectations, however the following toys are a great avenue to pursue in aiding that transition.

This post is part of a series. To read all the posts, go here.

You’re Perfect The Way You Are!:  I love this book!  It is appropriate for boys and girls.  For any child who is questioning about their looks or just feeling insecure as to who they are, this book helps in easing the anxiety a child might feel.  Each of us are different in many ways and that’s a good thing.  We ALL have positive attributes that we bring to this world and therefore should be celebrated.  This book is a mainstay in a children’s library of books.

Melissa and Doug USA Map Floor Puzzle:  I have used this map with kids too many times to count.  What a great way to learn the location, shape and and capitals of all 50 states.  The pieces  are so colorful and the pictures on each piece are super kid friendly.  A great plus: it has a wipe clean surface.  The pieces are made from extra thick cardboard so they are very durable.  This is a great learning tool for kids of all ages as well as parents.

I love these Learning Resources Math Link Cubes as not only are they colorful but they can be used in many different ways.  They are super for color recognition, grouping, making of patterns and counting.  They link together quite easily which helps a child with fine motor coordination. The size of the cubes are perfect as well.  They are small enough to manipulate but large enough to not become cumbersome.

The box that houses this game is so much fun and inviting.  I also love that the pieces are round with bright colorful numbers and graphics.  This toy builds addition and social skills as well as strengthening number sense.  The game is for 2 to 4 players and includes 90 number cards and 10 shark cards.  In order to win, you must make the most combinations that add up to 10.  The whole family can play because who doesn’t love a little friendly competition?

This toy is great for boys and girls ages toddler to 10 years.  This is a terrific set that has 172 pieces that provides hands on learning and creativity.  This toy also helps with fine motor skills for those children who need practice in this area.  This set comes with a booklet of 24 ideas but your child’s imagination is the driving force behind what can be created.  Also, the pieces are very easy to keep clean as you should wash them with mild soap and then leave them to air dry.  Let your child’s imagination soar.  You will be amazed as to what your child can do!

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs 2nd Graders


Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs 2nd Graders

As I continue to bring you a list of toys that are appropriate for special needs, please keep in mind that although I have highlighted them by grade level, they do overlap for additional grades.  As a parent, you know each and every child has different needs, different skill levels as well as different personalities.  With each of these toys, certain skills are the focus however there are instances where you can use these toys in additional ways to work on other skills that would foster independence and mastery.  As a parent, having different toys and “equipment” to help your child learn only helps with achieving the goals set forth. For example:  If you choose to purchase the brain flakes (below): they are meant for building while using your child’s imagination but can also be used to help fine motor coordination.  Additionally you can use them as a counting tool.

All of the items that I will be highlighting in my blog posts have either been items that I have used personally while working as an ABA Therapist or items that I have recommended to families that I have consulted or advocated for.  Over time, as a child’s needs and levels change, the items you purchase will change to adhere to the skills needed to be worked on.  However always go back to prior toys, books, etc. so your child does not regress.  

Everyone loves bingo!!  The Think Fun Zingo Sight Words Early Reading Game has the style of bingo while helping children recognize words.  This game is great for children who are pre-readers as well as readers.  Learning to read can be very challenging for many children, why not use a tool that makes it fun and enjoyable?  In 2013, it was a Toy of the Year Finalist.  I personally have used this toy with many children on different reading levels as well a non-readers and found it to be one of my favorites!

This game is awesome!  It teaches money skills such as counting and exchanging.  The game includes everything you need to play for 2 to 4 people.  I have used Money Bags personally until it was so worn out, I had to replace it.  Kids love the concept of money and all that comes along with it.  This game teaches a lifelong skill that everyone needs to have.  

This game is packaged in a bright, happy box that looks like a gumball machine.  What fun!  Children get to keep the gumballs when they answer correctly.  Not only does it help children learn their addition and subtraction facts but helps them with their fluency of those facts.  Who doesn’t love gumballs? 

This book is great if your child wants to learn about robots, sharks, food and more.  The pictures are colorful and the way the book is laid out makes it very easy for the child to read and understand.  If your child is unable to read it on their own, then this is a great thing to do together.  Children love to be read to so the parent can read while the child looks at the pictures.  The information also opens up an opportunity to discuss the topic after reading about it.  So not only is the child learning but they are being led to think about things that they might not know about.  As a parent, you may learn something new as well.

Each jar of Brain Flakes has more than 500 pieces and the discs are BPA, lead, heavy metal, and phthalate free.  This toy is great for boys and girls.  Don’t worry if your child can’t think of things to build because the toy comes with a booklet of ideas.  This toy is great not only to work on a child’s creativity but to help with their fine motor skills as well.  Children can build anything they want.  There is no right or wrong.  The sky is the limit!

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs First Graders


Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs First Graders

This week, I am highlighting some of the best therapeutic toys for first graders.  Please keep in mind that many of these toys that are and will be highlighted are not only for the grade level noted but can be carried over to many other grade levels as well.  As a parent, you always want to work on skills so the level of mastery is always present and therefore your child does not regress.  All skills can be integrated into the everyday, no matter what is being done in the moment.  By doing this, the child does not feel as though it is work but seamlessly transitions from one skill to another.

Filled with 9 different food quality herbs, this stuffed animal is FDA approved and does not contain pesticides. The temperature (whether warm or cold) can provide comfort in times of distress. It’s great at calming a child down or providing a sense of security.

Emotion flash cards are great for emotional and intelligence stimulation in addition to being a conversational and articulation tool. It’s not always possible for your child to express their feelings, but with the help of flash cards you’ll be able to better understand what they’re going through.

Made from 100% New Zealand Beeswax and food grade pigments, this set of crayons contains no paraffin wax and comes with a free PDF coloring book download. Buying safe crayons gives your child the freedom to play and yourself piece of mind knowing they aren’t smothering themselves in toxic chemicals.

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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Subscription Boxes for Hard Working Moms (In and Out of the Home)


Subscription Boxes for Hard Working Moms (In and Out of the Home)

As parents, you all work so hard…running a household, doing the chores, running the errands, being the Uber driver for the family, whether it’s doctor’s appointments, after school activities, taking care of a loved one or just being a “mommy” ALL of you need a break and deserve to do something for yourself.  Below is a list of great items that you can purchase or have someone purchase for you when you just need to pamper yourself.   As parents, you always do for your kids however it is just as important for you to do for you.  The following items are things that I curated for you to give you that “Ahhhh” moment that you so richly deserve.

This box features vitamins, supplements and healthy snacks. There are 10 healthy products in all. What a great way to try something new!

Who doesn’t love warm, comfy, fuzzy socks? With winter coming, prepare yourself for cold feet season with a fresh delivery of fuzzy socks every month. They look great with (and under) boots. Your kids might ask to “borrow” them- if they do, order them their own box because you’ll never get them back!

Are you a fashionista? Then you might worship at the feet of Rachel Zoe, original celebrity stylist extraordinaire. Her Box Of Style is just the gift you deserve- packed with a kimono, luxurious Kopari products and accessories it will give your wardrobe some oomph. This is just a single box and not an ongoing subscription, however she releases a new box every season. So if you love what’s included in this one, you’ll want to keep your eyes peeled for Fall 2018.

Need a caffeine fix every morning? Then start your day with the gourmet variety, courtesy of Bean Box. Featuring coffee from Seattle’s best small-batch roasters, seeing this box on your doorstep will put a pep in your step.

Each box contains at least 10 snacks of any flavor, variety or origin.  Each item inside the boxes are made outside the US so you are able to get an authentic flavor of where it is from. Perfect for the mom who wants to travel but doesn’t get farther than the kid’s park.

Don’t like to walk around your home in just socks or bare feet? Get 3 surprise slippers for up to 3 months with this warm and cozy subscription box. Match your new slippers to your loungewear.. or don’t. It’s Mommy Time!

Is beauty your savior? The Allure Beauty Box ships every month with free shipping, so there’s no excuse you can’t pamper yourself with a few choice products. And since they are picked by the beauty magazine itself, they are bound to be amazing.

If you want the best of the best (and let’s be honest- you deserve that and more)- there are 3 kinds of Amazon Luxury Beauty Boxes: Anti-Aging, Skin Care and Daily Beauty. As if that wasn’t enough, it’s money well spent because you receive a credit to put towards your purchase of the full-size products on Amazon.

This is a gift to yourself to make your life as a mom easier. Why run around scouring the top organic and non-toxic products when it can be shipped to your door ready to go? Being a new mom is frazzling enough, getting this box is the least you (or your spouse) can do to make your life simpler.

Additionally, please keep an eye out for my upcoming blog post featuring my Holiday List of the Best Toys for Special Needs Kids.

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs Kindergarteners


Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs Kindergarteners

In my ongoing series of blog posts, this week I am highlighting the kindergarten grade level.  Each of these items have their own positive rewards for the children who integrate them into their daily lives.  Please take a moment and check them out.  The benefits that come from these items are worth well beyond their cost.

These are non-toxic, BPA Free and washable (a parent’s dream!).  They are also discreet and will not bother others around.  Easily transportable so can be taken to school, doctor’s office, used while waiting in line along with traveling by car, train or plane.

This game helps children identify emotions through facial expressions as well as body language.  Through this card game, children build empathy along with self awareness.  It also models ways for children to express themselves in order to express their needs.

This book is about a small white dog who goes to the hospital to visit sick children and help them recover.  For some children, reading to them is a gift in and of itself.  Animal assisted therapy (AAT) is a type of therapy that involves animals as a form of treatment.  The goal of AAT is to improve an individual’s social, emotional and cognitive functioning.  Animals such as dogs and horses are quite effective with a child’s motivational and academic levels.


For children with special needs, reading can open up a world for them that they might not otherwise be able to participate in.  I love the Prime Book Box for Kids because it allows you to choose if you want a new shipment every 1, 2, or 3 months along with the choice of books that are curated for your child.  Shipping is free and you can skip a shipment anytime.  Each box contains either 2 hardcover books or 4 board books.  The age range starts at baby and goes up to 12.  

These cards are used for learning and recognizing numbers for the young child.  The font is large and easy to read. They also have bright contrasting colors.

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs Preschoolers


Best Therapeutic Toys For Special Needs Preschoolers

In the past several months, I have had many parents reach out to me, including the families that I work with in regards to recommendations for “toys” that would be helpful and are available for purchase.  

Although the school may work with your child on certain skills, the key is to be repetitive with ongoing skills as well as the introduction of new skills.  The goal is always to have your child master skills as well as be challenged.   

There are a plethora of items out in the marketplace to choose from however families are at times confused and overwhelmed as to what item or items to choose.  You always want to choose items that will reinforce the skills that your child has a weakness in.  With that said, for the skills that your child has mastered also need to be worked on as well so they do not regress.  Skills that are strong do not have to be addressed as often or at the intensity as the weaker ones, but you should have at least a couple of items in the home to be visited at least once a week.  

When choosing items specific to your child’s needs, take into consideration if the item is age appropriate, addresses the skills needed  with being fun and challenging  (not frustrating). 

Ask yourself: Is it colorful? Can my child maneuver it with their hands, legs, etc?  Will this be something that will attract my child to “play” with so they come back to it again and again?

Realizing how overwhelming this process is, I have decided to have an ongoing series of blog posts that are solely dedicated to presenting you with varying choices along with varying price points.  This post will address therapeutic toys for toddlers.  The next one will address for kindergartners and so on.

Here are some great toys that are advantageous and fun as well:

Just put these in a jar of distilled water overnight for them to expand.  They can also be brought back to their original size.  These can be used to teach colors, counting as well as help fine motor skills.  They are very calming as well. 

The sand is kinetic which means it sticks to each other not to your child.  This set comes with 6 molds and a tray.  It is hypoallergenic as well.  Comes in purple as well.  Great for fine motor skills.

They are firm but squeezable and are great for sensory/tactile stimulation.

Lightweight, Easy Twist Locks, Durable, Portable.  Helps develop arm and leg muscles as well as gross motor skills.

Helps children develop coordination and balance as well as strengthen core muscles.

This is just a sampling of some of the great toys available for your toddler aged child.  

Remember:  when choosing an item for your child, you should go through an internal checklist in your mind to ensure that what you are purchasing checks off everything on your list.  

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.

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ABA Therapy:  What Is It? Does My Child Need It?


ABA Therapy:  What Is It? Does My Child Need It?

What is ABA Therapy?

ABA or Applied Behavior Analysis is a scientific methodology that applies techniques which are based upon the specific principles of learning to change behavior along with social interactions.  Some people may refer to ABA as behavior modification.  ABA Therapy is widely recognized as the most effective evidence-based treatment for autism.  ABA fosters basic skills as looking, listening, requesting, imitating as well as higher level skills such as reading, speaking and understanding another person’s perspective.  

Therapists work closely with families and education professionals in order to apply the principles of ABA to teach language, social, self-help, academic, daily living and life skills.

ABA is a type of therapy that focuses on improving specific behaviors such as communication, reading, overall academics, social skills, as well as fine motor dexterity, hygiene, job competence as well as responsibilities involving holding down a job.  ABA is effective for children and adults with varying psychological disorders that are present within a variety of settings.  Some of these settings include school, home and the workplace. 

It has been proven that ABA can significantly improve behaviors and skills and therefore decrease the need for special support services.

Who can benefit from ABA Therapy?

ABA is commonly used as a therapeutic intervention for individuals with autism.  However, ABA is a fantastic therapy to be used with individuals that also have been diagnosed with severe speech and language disorders like DAS (Developmental Apraxia of Speech).

How does ABA Therapy help?

ABA not only helps the autistic individual learn new skills and maintain positive behavior but also to improve social interactions.  ABA also helps transfer skills and behavior from one situation to another which is integral in controlling or minimizing any negative behavior.

How does ABA Therapy work?

ABA helps people to become more successful in natural settings such as home, school and community.  ABA involves ongoing data collection to evaluate whether behavior is changing in the desired direction and the goals are being achieved.  ABA manages the consequences of behavior by rewarding positive behavior and in some cases uses punishment to deter behavior (child is unable to go the park and play for that day).  The rewards used must be enticing to the child or they will not “work” for it.

ABA uses discrete trial training or verbal behavior training.  This incorporates effective teaching and reinforcement practices to help children with disabilities to learn new skills faster and more efficiently.

When should ABA Therapy be used?

In order for ABA to be the most successful, it should be applied to a child prior to the age of 3 or 4 years old with a  minimum of 20 hours per week.  ABA is applied in 2 hour blocks of time.  Anything less does not allow the individual to receive the optimal results.

Although you do not hear about ABA as much for the elderly, it can be quite helpful with individuals in this age group as it helps them cope with their memory, physical strength as well as relationships.

There are several expectations involved with ABA Therapy:

  1. You need to determine what behaviors need to be changed

  2. Goals and expected outcomes need to be set

  3. Ways to measure changes and improvements needs be set into place

  4. Evaluate the starting point

  5. Learn new skills while avoiding negative ones

  6. Review the progress made

  7. After reviewing the progress, you need to determine if and how much ABA is needed

How long should ABA Therapy be used?

There is no specific time frame as to how long an individual may need ABA Therapy.  This solely depends on the diagnosis and at what rate improvement has occurred.  For the greatest results, ABA requires the therapist to monitor and evaluate constantly.

What is Discrete Trial Training?

A child is given a stimulus or question.  The child is given the correct answer or a very strong hint as what the correct answer would be.  If the child repeats the right answer then he is rewarded for it.  If the answer is incorrect, then it is smoothed over with very little attention given to the fact that it is incorrect.  The same  question is asked of the child for 10 times.  Each time the child gives the correct answer, the clues are removed slowly until the child responds correctly and independently.  Each specific program is worked on until the child has achieved mastery of that program.  This requires 8 out of 10 times correctly and independently over 3 sessions.  The therapist will move on to the next program and trials however will always come back to the programs that have been mastered to alleviate the possibility that the child will regress or would be unable to follow through with what had been worked on prior.

It is important to note that the skills taught in the discrete trials must be practiced and generalized in natural settings.  You must reinforce the wide range of appropriate behaviors in a variety of settings until the level of reinforcement fades to a regular level.

How can I ensure ABA Therapy works?

I began my experience in the education industry 24+ years ago initially as a teacher and ABA Therapist.  Although ABA then was not as prevalent as a choice for therapy, it always worked.  I had then and continue to see now how children have turned into ”miracles” from the intervention and application of ABA Therapy. 

With that said, I have had parents contact me through the years with nightmare stories about how their child was awarded ABA Therapy but the experience was nothing short of a horror story.  If you have made the decision that your child would be a great candidate for ABA Therapy, after speaking with your pediatric neurologist, please make sure that everything associated with your child’s experience is nothing short of fantastic.

Here are some things that you must be aware of:  

1. Cherish the loose leaf binder

A loose leaf binder that the BCBA provides should house all of the programs that are written for your child along with the discrete trials and results.  These programs vary, however must be applicable to YOUR child.  These programs are written by the BCBA who may not necessarily be the individual administering the therapy.  However, the BCBA should meet with you, IN PERSON once a week as well as the therapist to go over the programs, how your child is doing, if changes need to be made and to answer any questions that you may have.

2. Keep Track Of The Timesheets

Within this loose leaf binder should also be time sheets that the therapist needs to fill out and that you need to sign.  However, do not sign the time sheets if they do not reflect the actual times that the therapists have been to your home!  Never give in and always monitor the therapist, BCBA, the binder, time sheets and actual therapy sessions. 

I cannot tell you how many times parents have signed time sheets because they felt that they were obligated to when in fact that was not the case.  For example, the therapist was late or had to leave early or did not show up at all.  ANY AND ALL CHANGES IN REGARDS TO TIME, DAYS ETC. NEEDS TO BE NOTED AND THE BCBA MUST BE MADE AWARE OF THIS WHEN IT HAPPENS.  Only communicate via email when something has to be noted. This way no one can claim that they did not know about it.  Always make copies of every note and time sheet after each session.  When you may not expect it, the binder make go "missing" and your chance to have copies will be no longer existent.  Agencies as well as therapists/BCBA's have a reputation of business practices that are anything but professional.  Cover yourself. 

3. ABA must be done at the table

Not in the child’s room, outside on the patio, etc.  Make sure the sessions are in full view for you to listen.  Too many times, parents have explained to me that the therapist was in the child’s room to do the therapy.  Absolutely not!!!  There must be accountability.  

4. The Therapist Needs To Be Great

Too many times I have heard from parents that the therapist and or the BCBA is not educated and most importantly not experienced.  This therapy like any other MUST be administered by an experienced and effective individual.  If they are not, then they are wasting everyone’s time, especially your child’s. 

Remember: Your child has a window of time and opportunity to gain the skills needed to be successful.  Why would you allow any individual to take that away from them?



It is extremely difficult to find a great agency and even more difficult to find great ABA staff.  As a parent, do not give in and believe when the agency or school says we have no one else.  There are always other options.  There is too much at stake when it comes to your child. 


Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.




Introducing: Private Therapeutic School Selection


Introducing: Private Therapeutic School Selection

As your family liaison, I can research, vet and tour private therapeutic schools on your behalf so you can make the right choice for your child with special needs.

As a parent, there are many situations and hurdles you must address and overcome.  Whether it be a family issue, academic issue, professional issue or just the day to day goings on.  Being a parent is one of the hardest yet most important jobs one could have.  We all assume when a baby is born healthy, we are grateful and expect that the child will grow up like every other child.  However, when you notice something as a parent that is not right, Step 1 of this arduous process begins.  Not knowing all the twists and turns that life will bring to the family, it is a situation presented that MUST be addressed and addressed correctly.  There is no room for error as your child’s future is depending on you and all that you do for the betterment of their life.

Placement of your child in the proper school and the proper classroom is imperative. 

If your child has been placed, in what you believe is an incorrect setting then you need to be proactive to either have their classroom placement/staff member changed within the school that they are currently attending or placing them within a different district that could offer your child the appropriate fit or decide to place your child within a private school whereby the environment is the exact fit for your child for not only the academic piece but for the social and lifestyle piece as well.  I look at the situation as a puzzle that has many different pieces or facets to it.  In order for it all to work correctly, ALL the puzzle pieces MUST come together correctly and seamlessly.  If this does not occur then any strides and progression that your child may make will be at a much slower rate than what it should be.

Trying to find the one and only placement where positive outcomes are plentiful and set a standard for everything else can be daunting. The questions are endless..

  • What type of schools do I look for?

  • What should their curriculum include?

  • What is their classroom ratio?

  • What type of support do they offer?

The questions are endless but equally important.  You must have all of your questions answered and feel 100% comfortable with your decision.  If you don’t then your doubts will carry over to your child which in turn will effect their outlook, mindset and results.

That’s why I’m excited to introduce my latest product the Private School Search, concierge-like assistance in researching, vetting, touring and evaluating the perfect private therapeutic school for your child.


If your public school isn’t meeting their needs and placement in a local district that might be better suited for your child is out of the question, your child’s pubic school might pay for your child to attend a private school that is more equipped to handle their issues. This is common in districts that are unable to offer adequate support. This means that your child can attend a local private school and you don’t have to pay a thing.

Or you might opt to forgo your local district and pay for a school yourself if you have the means.

If you are located outside the United States but in search of an appropriate school to place your child in America, I act as your family liaison in the states who can complete the school selection process virtually with you in your home country.

I have had many requests from families to assist in the selection of the perfect private school and I’m happy to announce this is now a package that can be purchased.

Wherever you place your child, ideally they will be there for many years to come as they make great strides in a supportive environment tailored to them.

Why outsource your therapeutic school selection?

  • You can stay home, without interrupting your normal routine.

  • Having personalized support and guidance can be the difference between making the right choice the first time or having to go through the process again in another year when you realize the school you selected actually isn't a good match.

  • You can save time by not traveling to the schools yourself. Be there without actually being there.

  • The numerous perks that come with having a seasoned advocate as your voice, like asking the right questions at the right time.

There are several steps that I go through in order to find you the perfect placement for your child, no matter where you live.

If the school does not match the child’s needs no matter how nice the people are, then progress will be minimal or not at all.  Being nice or having staff tell you that everything is rosy, sweet and fantabulous does not get the job done.  You want results!!!  Clearly, you want the individuals that are working with your child to be nice and caring and feel as though they are invested in your child’s progress however, you DO NOT want someone to sugar coat things and not tell you the way they really are.  Honesty, this will only help them as well as yourselves to work on what is necessary while continually to encourage the details that have been mastered.



A great deal is given to this first step as it is what builds and creates the necessary school to educate, empower and support your child.  After speaking with you in depth in regards to your child during an Open Opportunity Session, I research and compile a proper list of therapeutic schools that are specific to your child’s needs.

Once you have read through and gone over my list, YOU decide which schools would be the most appropriate for your child, with my assistance.  Many things need to be considered including proximity.

One of the most important questions you need to ask yourselves is if you want your child to attend a school that offers a day program only or you would like them to attend a school where they are further from home and board at the school.  Once the list has been narrowed down, I contact the schools directly to set up a day and time for a tour.  These tours that I schedule are one on one with either the Director/Clinical Staff or Head of Admissions.  In some cases, it can be all of these individuals.  I do not tour schools with other individuals (parents)  as I require all the attention to be on my inquiries and my interests on behalf your child.


Personal Tour

With the permission from the school, I will conference you in to see the school first hand.  I also speak with admissions and clinical personnel on your behalf so I am able to ask questions that are pertinent to your child.  I also request prior to the tour that I would like to meet with staff, therapists, classroom teachers  and more. 

By doing this and speaking with these people, it gives me as well as yourself a sense of what the academic and social life on campus is.  My position within this is not only being your liason but advocate for what your child needs and to ask the tough questions directly before a decision is made.  The last thing that you want is to choose the the wrong school for your child and have to change at some point because the school is not the “right fit" for your child and family. 

As you know, change is very difficult for children with special needs in so far as becoming a detriment to their progress.  Change in many instances can cause a child to regress, which no one wants especially the child.  This disruption  can cause greater frustration, anxiety and additional behavioral problems or the beginning of some.


Photos and Video

Within each school, I will take photos and video of the school.  Again, this is pending the approval from the school.  My main  reasons for doing this is so you can get an inside look at some of the classrooms, study areas, library, gym, amenities and more.



Once the tour is completed, I sit down and evaluate how well the child’s needs would be met at each school.  I provide a formal evaluation of my professional opinion.  I include a list of pros and cons along with recommendations so you can move forward and make the decision as to when and if you would like to apply to this academic setting.  


Prep For Admissions

After discussing all the pertinent information, the next step would be to prepare for the admissions process.  This is a very important part that needs to be discussed when touring the school as it is imperative you know what is expected and what the school is requesting within what timeline.

Although all the support services are extremely important, school placement is paramount! 

Having your child placed in a school and or classroom that is not appropriate and does not offer the least restrictive environment in order for them to learn at their optimal level is wasting everyone’s time especially your child's.  Don’t you get tired of having to contact the school, the teacher, the therapist, etc. because there are problems, things are not working, your child is not learning, your child is being bullied and nothing is being done about it, etc.?  You know the drill.  YOU are the only one who can change all of that. 

Don’t waste another moment of your child’s future with all this nonsense.  Make every moment count with a perpetual wheel of progress.  Don’t let the schools take advantage of you and your family. 

Don’t let the schools tell you what they think you want to hear. 

Don’t let the schools continue to waste your time.  Time is a very valuable commodity and for those who do not respect one’s time, then they have no respect for people. 

Why would you want to spend another moment trying to convince the school and staff what your child needs when they blatantly don’t care? 

How many times are you going to allow the school and staff to have you be on that wheel going to nowhere?  You keep moving but nothing is changing for the better or for that matter, changing at all.  Your child deserves the world and you are the only ones who can give it to them. 

Your child did not ask to be born with these difficulties.  As a parent, it is your job to be there and come through for them.  

Unfortunately, the school and staff can be that weak and/or broken piece of the puzzle that is responsible for the whole puzzle to disintegrate with no opportunity to become whole.  Why give them that power over you and your child?

Be proactive.  Your child is counting on you!!

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.






The Best Amusement Parks for Children with Special Needs


The Best Amusement Parks for Children with Special Needs

Summer is in full swing and as parents, you are always looking for new and exciting activities to engage your child in.  The following list encompasses some amusement parks throughout the United States and one just over the border in Canada, that offer accommodations to children with special needs along with their families.  Although I have highlighted many aspects of each park, I advise you to visit their website and even call to speak with an individual who can answer any questions that you may have in addition to provide pertinent information so you are well prepared should you decide to visit.


Disneyworld - Orlando, Florida

They offer many services for guests with special needs.

  1. Advanced Ticket purchase

  2. Stroller and Wheelchair rental

  3. Strollers that can be used as wheelchairs

  4. Rider Switch

  5. Assistance in accessing attractions

  6. Break Areas

  7. Companion Restrooms

  8. Attraction Guides

  9. Dietary Accommodations


Universal Studios and Sea World Orlando will assist guests who are visiting the park.  If you are a family with special needs, the park suggests that you go to the customer service desk at the entrance to each theme park and notify them of your situation.


Source: Morgan's Wonderland

Source: Morgan's Wonderland

Morgan’s Wonderland - San Antonio, Texas

This amusement park is the only one in the world where all the rides are fully accessible and sensory friendly.  The park is based on inclusivity and fun. 

One example of a ride is an off road adventure where guests sit in vehicles designed to accommodate wheelchairs while they travel the rocky terrain and all the twists and turns that are associated with it.  Additionally, the park includes a sensory village, a lake for fishing and a garden that has calming music and art.  They also offer wristbands that are enabled with tracking devices that allows parents to know where their child is at all times.  Admission is free to visitors with special needs, but everyone else entering the park pays $5.  Reservations are required.

Some areas will include heated water for individuals sensitive to the cold.  Attractions include a boat ride through a jungle setting complete with animal sounds as well as waterfalls, pools, geysers, jets, water cannons and tipping buckets.



Legoland - Carlsbad, CA


Most attractions are accessible to guests with special needs along with detailed health restrictions that are posted at each ride. Legoland also has special hearing and vision accommodations for guests who have issues with sight and sound.  If you plan ahead, and contact Legoland 2 weeks ahead at the least then you will receive specialized care and attention.  Additionally, you can download an "Access Guide" from their website which outlines all the areas of the park that are wheelchair friendly.


Source:  Holiday World

Holiday World - Santa Claus, Indiana


This park has been named the cleanest and friendliest theme park in the world time and time again.  Holiday World has an annual special day called “Fun Day” when it opens its doors to 2,500 special guests all of whom have some form of mental or physical special need.  The admission is discounted and all the proceeds are donated to organizations that advocate on behalf of children with special needs.  If you like, you can download their “Rides Guide & Information for Guests with Disabilities” online before you plan your visit.


Sesame Place - Langhorne, Pennsylvania


This park is 30 minutes outside of Philadelphia and is popular among families with children of all ages and special needs.  When you enter the park, families with children with special needs can sign up for the "Ride Accessibility Program."  This program matches the individual abilities of the child to the requirements of each ride.  At that point, riders can choose 6 dry rides and 3 tower water rides they would like to go on.  Additionally, they can bypass the line.

Sesame Place also offers accommodations for children with vision or hearing impairments as well.

Sesame Place is the first theme park in the world to be designated as a Certified Autism Center

Sesame Place Team Members receive specialized training to ensure they have the knowledge, expertise and the temperament to work with all children especially special needs children.  The training that the team members go through focuses on sensory awareness, motor skills, program development, social skills, communication and emotional awareness, just to name a few.



Darien Lake Theme Park Resort - Darien Center, New York


This amusement park is located between Buffalo and Rochester, NY.  Not only do they have roller coasters and many attractions, they also have a 10 acre water park.

Darien Lake offers accessible parking which is conveniently located close to the park’s entrance as well as Priority Access Entrances to the rides that are most popular.  Children with special needs can bring up to 5 family members or friends with them to the front of the line.  There they will be assigned a riding time.


Six Flags - There are many locations for these parks throughout the US


Guests with special needs can receive an “Attraction Access Pass.”  This pass is available at all locations.  The purpose of this pass allows riders who are unable to wait in line for an extended period of time to sign up for a riding time and enter through the EXIT line with 3 family members or friends.  In order to take advantage of this great accommodation, the family MUST obtain a note from the child’s doctor that indicates the individual has a disability or other qualifying impairment under the American with Disabilities Act (ADA) and/or any applicable state law that prevents the individual from waiting in a standard line.



Source: Marineland

Source: Marineland

MarineLand - Niagara Falls, Ontario


This park is known for their attractions that include shows featuring dolphins, beluga whales and orcas.  They also offer discounted admission for individuals with special needs as well as a ride wristband for one rider and caregiver so they can skip waiting in line.

They also offer accommodations to individuals with special needs such as able to park in an area that is closest to the entrance.  This especially is helpful to individuals who may require a wheelchair or assistive devices.  Additionally, at the entrance, you are able to rent wheelchairs and therefore enjoy accessible friendly areas for shows, rides and restaurants.


Knoebels - Elysburg, Pennsylvania


Knoebels is located a few hours from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.  They feature games, attractions, gift shops, rides and food stands that are accessible for individuals with special needs.

Admission is free.  Guests coming to the park can purchase individuals tickets for the rides they would like to go on.  Guests with special needs can receive a “Courtesy Pass” from the First Aid Station.  This pass allows the individual and up to 3 family members or friends to bypass the lines and enter the rides through the exit gate.  Additionally, wheelchairs and ECV’s (Electric Convenience Vehicles) are also available to rent at the park should a family be in need of one.



SeaWorld - San Diego, California


This park provides "Special Access Pass!” for guests with disabilities.  Once you sign up prior to your visit, you will be give a pre-scheduled time for each ride.  Additionally, prior to your visit if you fill out a Ride Accessibility Questionnaire, you will receive a list of rides and attractions that are personalized to the guests interests and needs.  SeaWorld also offers sign language interpreters for guests with vision or hearing impairments.  This accommodation is offered for their marine life shows and tours however you do need to contact the park at least 2 weeks in advance of your trip.

If you are planning to visit any of these parks or any other similar ones, make sure to check out the section of their respective web sites that are devoted to accommodations for guests with disabilities.

As with everything else, do your homework!  Leave no stone unturned so there are no surprises when you arrive.  Your focus is on your child and their experience along with making great family memories.  Most importantly - Have a Great Time!!!

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.


It's Never Too Late To Change Your Child's IEP/ 504 Plan!


It's Never Too Late To Change Your Child's IEP/ 504 Plan!

Now that the school year is coming to an end or in some areas have already ended until September, all hope is not lost.

By this time, you have had your child’s IEP/504 Plan meeting in order to put into place all support services and placement for the 2018-2019 school year.  Perhaps the meeting went well and you received everything that you have asked for at the time.  Perhaps the school was only willing to concede on certain items that you asked for and not others.  Perhaps your child will receive nothing that you had asked for and the meeting was a negative and draining experience.  It is not too late to go back and change things.  

Most parents feel as though once the school year has ended and a new IEP/504Plan has been drafted then their child is “stuck” with what the document states. 

Nothing could be further from the truth. 

Yes, you did sign off on what was discussed at the meeting but be aware, NOTHING is set in stone.  The summer is a great time to go over what was discussed, what you signed off on and prepare your case for August/September when school is back in session.

I hear from many parents prior to contacting me that they felt intimidated and pressured into agreeing with what the school set forth even though they knew in their heart, it was not the best decision for their child. 

If after your meeting you felt defeated and taken advantage of, then use the next 10 weeks or so to build your case so you can present it with strength and determination. 

Do not just roll over and accept what the district has forced onto you.

The summer is a great time to hire an advocate if you have been thinking about it or even if you have not.  A good, strong advocate will use the time to go over the entire case.  He/she will ask questions about the reports, school interactions, family interactions, testing results, social skills, academic standing, etc. 

This time is a gift.  If you have waited and thought about needing an advocate but never moved to the next step in regards to this, then now is the time.  Time is on your side.  An advocate can build your case, organize everything needed to represent your child and what is in their best interest. 

Although school is “closed,” administrators and secretarial staff do work.  Additionally, if your district has a summer enrichment program then some of the teachers are working as well.  Therefore, if you are in need of specific documentation that you do not have, these can be furnished to you. 

Summer is a slower time for the school districts as they do not have the full attendance of students to address, however the office staff is usually busy preparing for the upcoming school year so they are focused on that particular task.  Reports from support staff (OT, PT, Speech, etc.) may not be available to you during the summer if those individuals are not working and administration does not have them in their possession, although they should. The CPSE/CSE Chair should have each individual result applicable to your child.  This individual does in fact work during the summer excluding the time they are on vacation. 

In the case where the school will not prepare the information over the summer that you are asking for, you would have to wait until school begins again to have those given to you.  But everything else can be put together. 

Out of the entire year, the summer is the best time to write down concrete wants and needs for your child that usually, up to this point, have not been met if you have not done so during the academic year. 

Also, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS ask for a copy of everything in your child’s file along with any additional documents.

Maybe, you had a communication log in place for the year. Request from the staff the actual log and if they state that they need to keep it, then tell them that you would like copies of the entire log. 

My suggestion to parents in regards to a log: each and every time it is sent home, make a copy of any entries.  This way you will have kept up with it during the entire year and will not feel inundated towards the end.  This will also ensure you have copies of everything and nothing has been ommitted.  Additionally, you may need to reference this log during the year when you need to call a meeting. 

This same rule holds true for the ABA binder. 

If your child is receiving ABA, either in the school environment or at home, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE COPIES OF EVERY PAGE IN THE BINDER! 

This will include the programs, notes, time sheets and any other communication that the therapist has added.  This will provide you with “proof” of what programs your child has mastered and which programs they are still working on.

If the time that has been recorded by the therapist does not match what you have kept track of, then DO NOT sign the time sheet!  Contact the agency or school that is providing the therapy and put in a formal concern.  This is a ongoing problem whereby therapists are recording hours that have not actually occurred.  A therapist sitting in your child’s room listening to music with them does not constitute ABA unless it is integrated into a specific program. 


I can’t tell you how many times parents are unaware as to what is going on in regards to ABA with their child.  This therapy, IF done right by a highly skilled individual who is effective, can be  a make or break when it comes to the IEP/504 Plan meeting.

As a parent or caregiver of a child with special needs, time is never on your side. 

In fact, time is critical to secure the appropriate support services and have them administered properly by an effective teacher and/or therapist.  Although there are many services not affiliated with the schools, it requires research and homework on your part to ensure that your child’s needs are being met completely and correctly. 

An advocate can help you with this tedious and laborious task as well.  An advocate can make phone calls, reach out to programs on your families behalf in addition to visit the programs (if geographically feasible) in order to get a first hand look as to what is being offered and if it would be a great fit for your child.  


Never give up. Always be proactive.

If you are being told something and you do not believe it is right for your child, then reject it and do your research so you can obtain that validity as to “what is right” for your child!  You are your child’s first line of defense.  An advocate is your “partner in crime” to make sure your child comes out not only ahead but can soar above all else!

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.


Can I Hire An Advocate To Just Go With Me To A CSE Meeting?


Can I Hire An Advocate To Just Go With Me To A CSE Meeting?

Many parents feel as though they do not want to attend a CSE meeting alone, which is more than understandable.  The CSE, unfortunately creates an environment of intimidation and in some instances hostility. 

Therefore, hiring an advocate who knows the case backwards and forwards can only be an asset. 

Hiring an attorney to attend the CSE turns the environment into an adversarial situation which you do not want.  The district will have it’s back up and more likely than not, will not work with you to attain the goals that you have set forth for your child. 

Additionally, if you hire an attorney to attend the CSE meeting with you then the district will also have their attorney in attendance.  If you have not attended a CSE meeting at all or not with any representation, such as an advocate, then I would not advise having an attorney at your meeting.

The CSE schedules meetings with a sizable amount of notice. 

If you feel as though you cannot attend the meeting alone and need an advocate then PLEASE contact one immediately.  If your child has had difficulties and there have been red flags prior, then you are going to have to play catch up.  This is not fair to the child. 

My one question is "Where have you been?!"

I have had many parents contact me last minute (within 1 week of the meeting or less) to attend their child’s meeting.  This will do a tremendous disservice to your child as the amount of preparation involved is substantial. 

The CSE is something that is to be taken very seriously. 

Your child’s future is contingent on the outcome of the meeting.  DO NOT dilly dally when it comes to your child’s future.  They are counting on you.  Please keep in mind as well, if the advocate is top notch then they may not be available as their calendar will book up quickly.


  1. If your child has had problems either recently in school or for a while, then hire an advocate immediately.

  2. If you have had an advocate and that individual has not been effective, then don’t be wishy washy, find someone else who is qualified.

  3.   If you have never gone into a CSE meeting before, then absolutely hire an advocate to attend.  This sets the tone for the relationship you will have with the school moving forward.  If they see that you are being proactive, then they are less likely to take advantage.  Of course, this is not a guarantee but in all my years of working as an advocate, the school takes a family far more seriously when they see that are totally invested in the child and are on top of things from the beginning.

More times than I can recall, I have had parents contact me to JUST attend a CSE Meeting. 

There is a feeling from parents that if they have the presence of an advocate then that will be enough for the district to stand up and take notice and therefore agree to what the parents are requesting. 

NOTHING could be further from the truth!  If you contact an advocate and they are more than willing to attend with no information or very little (perhaps based on what you tell them as a parent), BEWARE!

Personally, I do not JUST attend a CSE Meeting.  My business has a process to follow whereby all the information is gathered from the parent during the Open Opportunity Session and then if advocacy hours are needed, they can be purchased and implemented.

For instance, if you were in a car accident and as a result became injured, would you expect the attorney to represent you in court against the defendant with only the information that they gathered from a conversation with you? 

Of course not!  They would have to do a great deal of reviewing documents (discovery) from physicians, hospitals, therapists, police report, etc. in order to put a case together.  If the attorney did not do this then he/she would not be able to represent you properly and your case would be very weak.  Therefore the chance of you winning would be quite minimal.  Why take a chance with your child?  There is no difference between this scenario and hiring a great advocate who will represent your child as if their practice depends on it. 

A phenomenal advocate requires the following to be fully prepared to attend a CSE Meeting:

These items are non-negotiable and if they tell you otherwise, then find someone else immediately.

  1. The child’s file from any schools that they have attended or currently attend.

  2. The child’s file from any physicians that they have seen or currently see.

  3. The child’s file from any therapists or mental health professionals that they have seen or worked with.

  4. Any notes that are available from outside sources where the child may have attended, been enrolled in (extra curricular activities, etc.)

  5. All testing results from all individuals or facilities when the child began the process (diagnosis, medications, etc.)

In order for an advocate to truly take on a case, these items must be furnished.  There are many hours involved to prepare for the CSE meeting.  The advocate needs to read through all files, look at all testing and diagnoses as well as, in some cases, speak to specific individuals in order to get a first hand look as to the child and why they are at the point they are now (while taking notes to refer to during the meeting). 

Additionally, if the case is to be handled properly, emails need to go out to specific individuals, communication needs to become a part of the pre-CSE meeting along with forming a “relationship” with the individuals that will be seated at the meeting.  This information will form a design of where the child is and where they should be going.  This design will encompass what is needed for the child to move forward and progress therefore allowing him/her to attain their pinnacle level while doing so in the least frustrating way.

I implore you! As a parent, do your homework.  This is your child’s present and future.  You have an obligation to do the right thing for him/her.  Do not let your child down!

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.


Does Your Special Education Advocate Need To Be Local To Your Geographical Area?


Does Your Special Education Advocate Need To Be Local To Your Geographical Area?

The answer is a resounding NO!


In the 18 years that I have worked as a Special Education Advocate, many families have contacted me and asked if I could help them even though I am not close in proximity to their home. 


The answer has always been YES!  Fast forward 18 years, my business serves families from all over the United States.


Parents are under the belief that an advocate they hire has to be local for meetings but that is not the case.  I have been conducting meetings via the phone for the entire time that I have worked as an advocate and not only has it worked but it has worked well.  The most important point to remember is “proximity does not guarantee quality.”


Having an advocate sit next to you at a meeting, does not guarantee that the individual is knowledgeable, well spoken and most importantly, effective.


Let me give you a couple of examples:  


If you have been using a tax accountant for many years, built up a rapport with that person and they have done an incredible job for you since you have used them but they or you move - does that mean that you can no longer use them as your accountant?  Of course not! 


With the way our lives are built now - technology being everywhere, all information can be sent to the accountant that is needed in order for him/her to do the job.  Whether they or you live in the same state but hours apart, a different state, a different coast or even a different country; this should not deter you from using their services because nothing has changed in regards to their exemplary knowledge and work ethic. 


Think about it:  If you have been using them, feel comfortable with them as a person and are over the moon with the job that they have done for you then why would you not use them anymore?


Let’s say that you or a family member has been seeing a therapist and have built up a wonderful relationship of comfortability and especially trust, why would you not see that therapist any longer if you or he/she has moved?  Just because you cannot physically sit on their couch for the sessions does not diminish their capability, knowledge or effectiveness. 


There are many, many more individuals who are becoming a digital nomad when it comes to their business.  These individuals have an online business and continue to run their business from wherever they might be.  Don’t  discount them because they are not physically next to you at a meeting or sitting across from you at a session or beside you to interpret and prepare your taxes.


I have been calling into meetings for my entire advocating career and it works well.


As a parent, I understand and have been told time and time again that walking into a meeting is very intimidating. 


Although parents feel a great deal of trepidation walking into a school meeting, there is some level of comfort when an advocate is by their side. 


However, did you know that you too, as a parent, can call into a meeting? 


I can’t tell you how many conference calls I have had when it comes to either a CSE meeting or just a follow up meeting.  By doing this a parent can participate in the meeting from home or work, whichever works best for them, but is able to minimize the anxiety that they would feel when attending in person.  Of course, if your schedule does not allow to attend in person or you are just unable to do so for varying reasons, as long as the district approves you attending via telephone then there is no difference in regards to the information presented, the questions asked and the changes, if any, that need to be made.


Remember: you as the parent are in control. 


If you are unable to attend in person, the district MUST provide you with a CSE meeting for your child.  It is the law.  Therefore, if you contact them once you have been given a date and explain that you are unable to attend the meeting however you can and will attend via telephone, they are in a position to accommodate you.  Remember, you are legally entitled to a CSE meeting whether you are attending in person, calling in over the phone, working on your swing from the golf course or sending smoke signals while toasting your marshmallows.


Additionally, by not attending in person, you do not feel the physical pressure associated with making split decisions or signing documents requested at that time. 


Let’s face it, going to a CSE meeting makes you feel as though you are the target on a firing line.  Why put yourself through that?


Another aspect to think about is the cost.  For an advocate to appear in person, it costs far more than an advocate calling in.  For the calling in, you are charged for the time on the phone.  For the in person scenario, you are not just paying for the time attending the meeting but for the travel time associated with each way (coming and going).


In my opinion, the advocate that you choose should be a very well thought out decision.  You are putting your child’s future in their hands and it should be handled as such.  An advocate with an indifference to your child’s situation and to you as the family needs to be handled with thought, emotion and downright caring.  The decisions that you make today will impact your child not only tomorrow but every day moving forward.  The advocate is an integral part of your family and should be looked at as one.


As I stated earlier, “proximity does not guarantee quality.”  Plain and simple.

Need immediate insight into your child’s situation and how to address their current issues? Schedule your Open Opportunity Session for an expert analysis and strategic plan you can implement today.



Is Your Special Education Advocate a Fraud?


Is Your Special Education Advocate a Fraud?

For the last 24 years, I have worked in the education industry in varying capacities. I started off my career as a teacher and then worked as an ABA Therapist. However, my greatest love has been working as an Educational Consultant and Special Needs Advocatefor the past 18 years.

You may ask, why make the change?

The answer is quite simple. During my time in the classroom teaching, I saw firsthand the huge disconnect between what services a child desperately needed and what support services they were actually receiving. This disparity was the catalyst for me seeking the change. Not only were the children’s needs not being met but it was the pure disregard on the part of the individuals that worked in the education industry. The children were treated as a number and as disposable. This not only frustrated me but disgusted me as everyone has capabilities. Everyone has something positive to bring into this world and everyone can make a difference for the good!

The fact that these educators had a “I can’t be bothered” attitude was inexcusable.

Having children in the classroom who learned differently put more pressure on the teacher. I can’t tell you how many times I had heard (while teaching) from other staff members, that it was easier just to push the child with special needs through. They complained that they only had so many hours in the school day and if they had to address each child’s needs then they could not stay on their schedule in order to get the curriculum taught.

I agree that the school day is only so long, however if the staff and administrators would work with parents to ensure that their child is placed in the correct classroom as well as receives the proper support services, then things overall would move along much smoother for everyone. Most importantly, the child would receive everything that they should and therefore they would be set up for success.

Many, many schools teach to test so the actual time that is spent on each topic within the curriculum is far shorter than it had been in the past. If a child cannot “keep up” their success rate will drop significantly.

This is where an advocate comes in.

Parents and their children are frustrated: They do not know if the child’s placement is correct, their support services (if any) are correct, and most importantly if their diagnosis is correct.

To go one step further, if the child is in fact receiving support services then the question becomes: are the services being administered as they should be? For the correct frequency? Is this information being recorded properly?

In the 18 years working as an Educational Consultant and Special Needs Advocate, I have had many, many families contact me because what they thought what they were doing was the right thing, turned out to be a nightmare. I can’t stress enough that if as a parent you have decided that you need to hire an advocate, PLEASE do your homework before choosing one, no less paying one.

Here are a couple of situations that occurred to families I’ve worked with.

Case #1

A mom contacted me to ask some questions. She explained that she had hired an “advocate” to help her when she needed to attend her child’s IEP meeting as the school was not following through with support services.

The mom told me that although she paid this “advocate” the fee required, the woman showed up to the first IEP meeting but stayed quiet for the entire duration of the meeting. She said nothing! She did not advocate at all, she left all of the talking solely for the mother to do. It was a very short meeting as the school rolled over the mother while the “advocate” just sat there.

After walking out of the meeting, the mother asked the advocate why she didn’t say anything and the advocate’s response was “The school had valid points.” The mother then went on to ask if the advocate even looked at the testing results, classroom tests, notes from staff, etc. prior to the meeting. The advocate admitted that she “glanced” at the paperwork that the mother had given her but did not feel the need to read it in depth.

This behavior is not professional, to say the least. The advocate was paid to provide a service which was not provided.

This is fraud!

Although this nightmarish situation took place, the mother requested another IEP meeting. Knowing full well that this “advocate” did nothing but took her money, she contacted her once again to represent her at the meeting. When I asked her why, her response was the she did not know of any other advocates to contact so she thought having her there would be better than nothing.

Oh my goodness! NO! The advocate clearly had shown she did not know what she was doing and sadly, could care less. However, once again the mom paid her to attend the meeting. This time, the “advocate” called the mom the morning of the meeting and said that she could not make the meeting as she had laryngitis and could not speak.

I do not know where this mom got this “advocate” from, but this woman should NEVER work in this industry again. I explained to the the mom that there are many resources out there where one could find special needs advocates and attorneys however, BUYER BEWARE! It is a slippery slope and unfortunately, individuals like the one above gives the industry a bad name. Sad to say, this seems to be the norm from what parents tell me.

Case #2

A mom contacted me because she needed clarification about her son’s situation. Remember, each child should be looked at and considered on a case by case basis. No two children are the same and therefore the handling of the case is “custom made” to that child. If an advocate handles each child the same, then that is a red flag and you may want to find a different advocate.

This mom had hired an advocate for her son. She paid her and spoke with her briefly on the phone. However, after that, the advocate was nowhere to be found. The mom said she had continually tried to contact her via telephone but to no avail. All she received was a message on the voicemail stating that she (the advocate) was not working at this time due to a family issue.

Without asking any other questions, I knew that the advocate took the money and ran with it and most probably she was not the only one.

My only question was this: “How long have you been trying to contact the advocate?”

Her answer: “A few months.”

What? The mom went on to tell me that she called her son’s pediatrician to ask him if he knew anything since he was the one who recommended her. The pediatrician communicated to the mom that he had recommended this advocate to many other families that were in his practice and they too were calling him to inform him that they paid money to this advocate, to never hear from her again.

This is fraud!

In speaking to the mom, she had given me the name of the advocate. I was not familiar with who she was however after hanging up with her, I looked up the advocate. Her website was not up and by all accounts, she was longer “in business.”

As of our conversation, she was still hoping against hope that this woman would contact her. I called the mom back and informed her that the website was not in working order. The mom responded “I didn’t know that.” I was hoping that this particular information would be a turning point for her to become proactive but quite frankly it made no difference at that time.

As a parent, how you handle every situation is your business however when it comes to a child with special needs, time is of the essence.

Time is a precious commodity that cannot be wasted as you are playing with your child’s future and success.

The more time that is wasted until a decision is made, the more you push back any gains that your child may make. Think about all the time that this mom wasted waiting around for the “advocate” to contact her. She didn’t know what to do yet did not inquire either and now that child has been pushed back that much further.

Having a child with special needs is not a situation that can be taken lightly. I cannot implore you enough how you do not have time on your side.

Things to Look For And Remember When Hiring an Advocate:

  • The longer you wait to do something, the more detrimental it can become for your child.

  • If something is wrong, address it immediately. Don’t think it will get better, because it won’t.

  • If you need an advocate, find a great one. It will pay off in the long run. Remember, you get what you pay for.

  • You cannot be wishy-washy. Make a decision and stick to it.

  • The advocate is on your side. A good advocate will be honest with you and tell you if your wants and expectations are valid and within reason. If the advocate, says yes to you on everything or almost everything then they are ill-informed, ill-equipped and not on your side.

  • If you have decided to hire an advocate, they are on your side and should not sit by and let the school run the show. This is YOUR child and as a parent, YOU know your child best.

  • Vet them! Check to see that they have a working website, working email, and working phone number. Check to see if there are any reviews.

  • An advocate MUST respond to you via phone or email within 24 hours, at the most. This amount I am giving is very liberal. I have been known to be up at midnight sending emails out to parents and school staff and administrators because my day was so busy with meetings, conference calls and school visits. This is my job and my responsibility. Especially, as a parent, you deserve that extraordinary service and every advocate, in my opinion, should be held to this standard. If they do not possess this mindset, then you need to speak with them and explain what your expectations are. This should be discussed prior to you hiring them.

  • Find out what their process is. For example: The first thing that I do upon working with a family is I send out an introduction email to all school staff (teachers, administrators, therapists, etc.). I explain who I am and that I will be representing the family and child. I give them my contact information and communicate that they can reach out at any time for any issue (positive or negative). My goal is to always to keep the lines of communication open. This allows for a constant collaboration between home and school.

  • As an advocate, you become fully immersed with the family and most importantly the child. My philosophy is that your child is counting on me to do the best I can for them while working with you (the parent) and everyone else that should be on his/her side.

  • Unfortunately, many people advertise themselves as advocates. Buyer Beware. Just because a mom or dad has a child with special needs and went to school to get their child services, does not make them an advocate. More times than not I have seen people advertise themselves as an advocate and upon looking into it, there is no working website, phone number (if there is one listed at all) along with no degrees or experience.

  • Just because you have a child with special needs, does not mean you are an advocate. This is a very important job that should not be taken lightly. Unless an individual has a proven track record, do not hire them.

  • Although you should advocate for your child, there is fine line between being their mom or dad and being their advocate. You should ALWAYS be your child’s parent first. Leave the advocating to a professional.

  • Be very careful when choosing an advocate. There are very few out there that know what they are doing, are truthful and truly want the best for your child. This is not something one should do as a hobby out of their basement. This is not something one should do because they want to feel important.

  • If in your search for an advocate, you find an individual that has an email that is gmail, yahoo, verizon, hotmail or any other free non-branded email address then they are NOT running a business or taking it seriously. Any professional worth their salt has a branded email address. Like ilene@ilenemiller.com.


This post was written to help you as a parent — to inform and empower. I can’t say enough how important it is that you do something now for your child. Don’t waste another moment as your child is counting on you. Don’t let them down. He/she did not ask for these struggles and frustrations. Be your child’s hero. They will thank you for it and it will mean more than you can imagine!

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Why Should I Have My Child’s Classroom Placement Changed?


Why Should I Have My Child’s Classroom Placement Changed?

It is a long and arduous process trying to enlist all the individuals that are needed to diagnosis, test, meet and come up with a plan when a child is special needs. With that said, when everything is in place, everyone provides the therapy and help that is needed and agreed upon, the situation runs like a well oiled machine. However, when things do not play out as they should, the situation can become frustrating, anxiety ridden as well as what seems to be hopeless.

I can’t tell you how many times, families have contacted me for varying problems on varying levels. However, the one problem that seems to be a common thread is that their child has been placed within a classroom setting that is not considered to be the least restrictive environment or anywhere close to that.

If after all the doctor visits, the diagnosis, testing (from the physician as well as the school) and meetings, your child is placed in a classroom that you, as the parent, feel is not appropriate then you need to be proactive in ensuring that a change takes place immediately. Early intervention is the key but moreso the intervention needs to include the right decisions made for your particular child. 

For instance, if the child is receiving all the support services that are listed on his/her IEP but your child is placed in a classroom that is inappropriate, then only part of that child’s day is going to be helpful. 

The child’s IEP is like a puzzle. There are many different facets and when they all come together correctly, they work in unison for the goal of improving and teaching the child so they can move forward with skills that have been mastered.


Let me give you an example:

I had a mother contact me about her son. It was one week into the beginning of school so she was very proactive and caught things quickly before they had a chance to become a whirlwind. Although her child had an IEP with many support services to target different areas, the classroom placement was all wrong.

The teacher sent home a picture of the child, with his head down on the desk, sleeping. Her son was so bored in this class that he fell asleep. She contacted the teacher right away and asked what the scenario was behind the photo. The teacher explained that the class was working on a project and her son had completed it before any one else. Because of his boredom and the teacher not giving him another task, the child fell asleep. 

Honestly, I could not believe that the teacher even sent this photo home because it validated that she was unable to discern if the child actually belonged in her class. Basically, it made the teacher look questionable.

The mom contacted the CSE Chairperson to call a meeting as she wanted the child to be moved out of this inclusion classroom and put into a mainstream classroom. She was accommodated with a meeting and at the meeting she brought up her thoughts and concerns as to why her son should be moved to a class that was more appropriate for him. We received 1 answer and that was from the principal. 

The CSE agreed that he could be moved but the response from the principal took me by surprise. She said “We can move him but it will take awhile. I will have to see where I can place him as all the classes do not have room and are filled to capacity.” This was a stall tactic and very upsetting to the mom. 

My question then became this: “If a family just moved into the neighborhood and came to the school to register their child, would you tell them that the child could not start school for awhile because all your classes are filled to capacity and you do not know where you will place that child?” The response to my question was met with a blind stare from the principal along with no response from the CSE Chair or anyone else for that matter.

We ended the meeting with ”I’ll be in touch and will let you know when we plan on changing the classroom placement.” This response was from the CSE Chair. 

Not only was this response upsetting but the school was not following the law and placing the child in a least restrictive environment whereby he could learn and benefit from an appropriate education. 

This was unacceptable. 

For the following 3 days, I emailed the CSE Chair 2 times a day. Once, first thing in the morning and once at the end of the school day inquiring about the status of changing the child’s placement. 

My thought process was twofold. 

One - I was always kept top of mind. 

Two - She would get tired of seeing an email from me in her inbox and address the situation quickly. Well, it worked. The child’s placement was changed into an appropriate mainstream classroom yet all of his support services stayed the same with a combination of pull out and push in services.

What I tried to explain during the meeting was the fact that the child was bored because he was at a higher functioning level than the other children in the class. Although you always want your child to be with a variety of children and levels, they should always be in a class with some children that are on a higher level than your own child. 

The higher functioning children serve as a role model so the other children can learn from them. This learning is not structured but organic. They learn from the other children’s social skills, learning styles, listening to directions, completing a task, etc. The children that may be on a lower level of functioning are able to look to your child and use them as a model. This way it is a wonderful and productive way for children to try, address and master different skills with not only the assistance of the teaching staff and support staff but with their peers as well. 

Many children feel as though they are judged by the staff but feel less intimidated when being helped and working with their peers. Many, many times children will succeed further and quicker when looking to their peers for assistance. They are able to not only understand their struggles but see the struggles of others.

The moral to this story is ALWAYS place your child in an environment with children that are on their level but the class must also have children that are on a higher functioning level than themselves as well as a lower level. It gives the child a goal and when they are able to grab that brass ring (the goal), the accomplishment and self-esteem raised from that, skyrockets.  


If you feel at any time your child’s classroom placement is incorrect, speak up immediately. 

Don’t let the school tell you to give it some time. The more time you wait for the change to happen, the less likely it will. If your child is communicative, then ask them questions about their day all the time in order to get a sense of what the environment is like. If they are unable to communicate to you in regards to this, start a communication log with the school and invite them to write you a quick note as to what your child did, how they did and whether or not your child is proactive in forging friendships with those children. 

A child not having any “friend” in their class could indicate that they do not feel comfortable with anyone. This could be for a multiple of reasons - you need to try to pinpoint why. All children should feel that they have a “buddy” in their class. This lessens the feeling of isolation.

Your child spends a great deal of time within the classroom that they are placed. Not everything is perfect in regards to school,but placement needs to be!


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Summer Programs For Children With Special Needs


Summer Programs For Children With Special Needs

The school year is coming to a close within a few short months and as a parent, decisions need to be made as to what your child’s options will be for the summer months.

The purpose of this article is to highlight what options are out there.  This does not include every possible activity but certainly touches upon many that you may feel would be appropriate for your child.


Children with special needs should be enrolled in at least one program during the summer months, as this time can become an opportunity for regression. 


The progress that your child hopefully has made during the year should be built upon during the summer while addressing all if not most of the skills that were learned.  Transitioning to the summer is difficult for children with special needs as they get accustomed to the same schedule during the school year and therefore are aware of the expectations and the order in which they occur. 

Remember, any change for a child with special needs is that much more magnified in difficulty than that of a regular education child. 

However, the transition does not have to be so traumatizing as there are many programs out there throughout the country that allow for the skills learned in school to be continued.  Additionally, these programs have individuals who are trained educationally to work with these kids and work with them well.  


1. Equestrian Therapy


This therapy is also known as equine therapy or equine-assisted therapy.  This therapy uses horses to  help children grow emotionally.  Equestrian therapy is used for many different diagnosis. It is particularly helpful with individuals who have been diagnosed with autism, dementia, down syndrome, behavior, mental health issues, delays in mental development as well as brain injury patients. 

Therapeutic riding contributes to many positive aspects in regards to the emotional and social well being of individuals with specials needs, no matter what their age is.  Just because an individual has difficulties, it does preclude them from horseback riding.  The rhythmic motion of riding is extremely beneficial as it mimics an individual walking.  It is has been shown that individuals with special needs, specifically, physical disabilities, have improvement in flexibility, balance and muscle strength. 

If you decide on placing your child in this type of program, please ensure, especially for new riders, that the establishment provides a horse leader as well as 2 individuals who walk along the horse on either side.  These individuals are usually called sidewalks or a derivative thereof.  This not only makes it safer but it will cut down on any anxiety associated with participating in a new experience.


2. Summer Enrichment


This is recommended by your child’s teacher for a number of reasons.  If your child is not up to grade level, this could be a “catch up” time to better prepare them for the upcoming school year.  It also serves as a review for work that already has been introduced but perhaps your child had difficulty within certain areas. 

Additionally, it serves as a piece to address the cohesiveness of the academic year.  A break during the summer months, unfortunately for many children with special needs becomes a time when they regress.  Their schedule has changed not only in regards to the academic piece but for the socializing piece as well.  Their “routine” has been disrupted and for children with special needs, any change is detrimental.  This can cause regression academically, behaviorally and socially. 

Keep in mind, change for many of us young and older individuals, can be difficult to come to terms with however for a child with special needs that difficulty is magnified exponentially and therefore anything that can be done to help the transition move as smoothly as possible is especially important.


3. At-Home Summer Services


 In my many years of working as an Educational Consultant and Special Needs Advocate, I have found that although a child needs summer services, Summer Enrichment is not the correct fit. 

Let me offer an option that has worked and fits well with the many children and families that I have worked with.  Your child may be lagging behind and not up to grade level however sending them to the school building may be frustrating for them over the summer months.  It may feel as though it is a continuation of all the demands that are put on them during the formal school year. 

However, I have found that if the CSE approves this particular option, it has far exceeded the positives when correctly administered.  Ask the CSE if a teacher can come to your home for a specific amount of weeks (I recommend 6 weeks) for 4 days a week.  I would request that the teacher comes 2-3 hours a day.  This allows for the child to receive intensive help in areas that are weak and therefore better prepare them for the upcoming school year. 

If your child is doing well and is performing on grade level but just needs some review from the school year that was just completed, then the teacher could focus on those areas.  In addition to working on this, they can pre-teach the materials that will be covered for the upcoming school year.  This allows the child to be introduced to the curriculum prior to September. It allows them to practice the topic so when it is introduced within the classroom at the beginning of school, it is not as foreign and they are able to tackle the curriculum with pride and hopefully with a reduced amount of anxiety. 

Although many teachers do work during the few weeks teaching the Summer Enrichment Program, there are teachers who are willing and actually prefer to go to a child’s home to teach. 

Additionally, it allows the child to be in their familiar surroundings, feel more relaxed, secure and less anxious which in turn provides for a substantially positive learning environment. 

Not only does the teacher work on the academics but they should reinforce all of the concepts via games, manipulatives, music, etc.  This piece the child will remember the most and when they are asked in school to pull from their existing knowledge, these are the concepts that will stick out in their mind.


4. Art Classes 


There are many activities covered with different instruments (paint, brushes, markers, etc).        

        Here are some activities that you can do at home with your child:

            Crayons:  Allows children to express themselves with drawings and coloring

            Spray Paint: If the weather is warm, a great activity 

            Popsicle Stick: Spreading Paint with a Popsicle Stick

            Tissue Paper Butterflies: Children create a butterfly with tissue paper

            Fruit and Veggie Prints: Cut fruit in pieces (half, quarter, etc.) and dip in paint

            Hands: Use handprints to make personalized objects

            Sponge Painting: Children can use sponges as painting tools


5. Music Classes


Most kids love music, whether it be to dance to, play to, sing to, etc.  It is fun and allows the children to express themselves without judgement.  Additionally, it helps with coordination, listening skills as well as allowing them to be silly and show a side of themselves that may not be seen very often as so many demands are always placed on them.  These classes allow them to say “free to be me.”


6. Sports


Whether it is soccer, baseball, basketball, hockey, etc. these sports give the child a time to show off perhaps their strong skills in a certain area.  There are many programs that allow children with physical and mental disabilities to play baseball in a non-competitive and supportive environment. There are soccer programs that use buddies to assist the players as needed.  There are also programs that give people with physical and developmental disabilities the chance to play ice hockey in an environment that is non threatening.  The environment is adapted to the individuals level and ability.


7. Swimming


Swimming lessons provides children with vital skills to help with survival.  Swimming is a great activity, especially for children with special needs as it allows them to have fun in a non-competitive environment.  Swimming is also a great activity because it lets the child feel as though they are “equal” to others in the water.  It is a great family activity as everyone can share in the day. 

Swimming consists of many benefits however some of the most important is that it boosts physical activity level, helps to develop self-confidence, build self-esteem and it teaches a life saving skill.  Each time a child kicks, it builds muscle tone and strength.  It also helps with balance, coordination and developing motor skills.  Swimming also helps with range of motion as being buoyant in the water reduces the restrictions on the body.  Learning to swim helps develop spatial awareness well.  Drowning is the one of the leading causes of death for children with autism.


8. Karate


The benefits are immeasurable in regards to enrolling your child within a martial arts school.  It teaches not only structure but discipline as well.  Martial arts provides a competition within the child not with others.  Other benefits include the consistency and repetition of learning the “moves.”  Additionally, it helps with and works on focus, concentration, balance, tone, awareness, self regulation, core strength, reduced anxiety and spatial awareness.

Depending on their level of ability, children will be able to  attempt many activities.  As their parent, you are the best judge, as you know your child best, as to what your child is capable of.  One of the most important things to remember is to have patience and always encourage your child to do as much as they can and to do it on their own.  There is a great amount of satisfaction that an individual gains with being able to complete tasks on their own.  Another important point is to always keep in mind that the level of ability should match the child.  

Do not place your child within an activity that far exceeds what they are able to accomplish at that particular point in time. 


This will only cause a great deal of anxiety, frustration, behavioral and mental anguish. 

That is not to say that you should not place your child within a level that is slightly higher than what they are used to.  You always want your child to be challenged, not frustrated.  Also, placing your child within a level slightly higher will allow them to benefit from modeling of the other children that are able to succeed.  These other children can help your child not only with the task at hand but can provide a great socialization piece that may last beyond the activity. 

Always be supportive! 

For children with visual impairments, tactile activities are a must! 

The most important advice that I can offer you is - do your homework! 


For any activity that you decide to enroll your child in, ask a lot of questions.  Make a list so you don’t overlook anything.  Bring that list with you.  Also, I have never come across a program that did not allow the parents to come and visit one time to see exactly how it is run.  You should also request to meet the staff of the class that you will possibly enroll your child in so you can get a “feel” as how things will go.  Bring your child with you so they can meet the individuals that they will directly have contact with as well as become familiar with the surroundings so the first day will not be so intimidating.

Most importantly, have a wonderful summer!

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